Adoption from Foster Care

There is a school of thought that Adoption from Foster Care is a long to medium term back door strategy to supply babies and toddlers for Adoption

It is a well-known that most adopters prefer to adopt babies and infants and don’t really want older children for a variety of reasons in fact In Australia during 2015–16, 100% of local adoptees were aged under 5

The latest Australian Institute of Health & Welfare (AIHW) report indicates an increase in numbers for 2016-17, largely made up of known child adoptions, the majority in NSW.

The AIHW report identifies that the increase in adoptions is primarily due to the rise in the number of adoptions by known carers 143 of these being foster carers, 131 of who were from NSW leaving 12 from all the other states and territories.

Of these children 80% were aged five years or older.

 It is said the majority of people who want to adopt from OOHC presently are people who have had the long term care of the children.

 This may be true however once the few that want to adopt the older foster kids that have been in there care have done so.

 Where will supply come from then?

The truth will then start to surface as babies and toddlers are placed with foster carer’s. Who are really adopters that plan to adopt as known child adoptions. Then we will see the 80% aged five years or older reduce and the under 5 increase.

 Of course those stats will take time to surface as the babies need to be in their care for one or two years first, and toddlers will get older and appear as over 5 conveniently hiding the truth. A more honest statistic would be to show the age the child was when they first came into the care of the foster carer/ adopter and how long the child was in their care before adoption was approved.

“Adopt Change is pleased to see the New South Wales government leading the way to prioritise Adoption/permanency and suggests that other states are now considering adoption as a permanency option for children in out of home care.”

We must do our best to try and stop this back door method to adoption of infants from happening.

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DISCHARGE, THERE ARE TWO SIDES TO EVERY COIN

AS WE CELEBRATE THE SUCCESSFUL DISCHARGES OF ADOPTEES FROM THEIR ADOPTION HEAR IN AUSTRALIA THERE REMAINS A VERY DANGEROUS CLAUSE IN THE ACT IN VICTORIA AND PERHAPS IN OTHER STATES THAT ALLOWS THE CHILD TO BE DISCHARGED BY THEIR ADOPTERS THE “FOREVER FAMILY” WHICH LEAVES THE DOOR WIDE OPEN FOR RE-HOMING LIKE IS THE PRACTICE IN THE USA.

RE- HOMEING You would say this could never happen in Australia

However our current State Adoption Act1984 has a loophole that leaves the possibility WIDE OPEN and as the adoption act will remain in place for many years as time rolls on this clause could be taken advantage of.

The VICTORIAN ADOPTION ACT 1984 – SECT 19.
“Discharge of adoption orders (1) An eligible person may apply to the Court for an order discharging an order for the adoption of a child made under this Act (a) “eligible person” means the adopted child to whom the adoption order relates, a natural parent of the adopted child, AN ADOPTIVE PARENT of the adopted child, the Secretary or the principal officer of the approved agency by which the adoption was arranged;”

Changes to the Act are necessary we completely oppose adopters having rights to discharge an adoption other than fraud.

That the adoption order or consent for the purposes of the adoption order was obtained by fraud, duress or other improper means”

So- if the adoption order was obtained by fraud (i.e. the adopters were misled)

– If not it will almost always be in the best interests of the adoptee to be unadapted by people who don’t want them so much for a “FOREVER FAMILY.”

It gives the adopters too much of an out.

What happens to the child then?

We argue giving adopters greater rights commodifies children because it means they can be “returned” if the adopters can make an argument that it’s in the child’s best interests

The Governments who have this legislation are trying to keep the adoptees, natural parents and adopters THE SAME but because it involves children they are NOT THE SAME.

To prevent the ‘re-homing ‘situation prevalent in the US we recommend

• Transparent process and criteria for straightforward ‘no-fault fuss free’ type Discharges of Adoption for adult adoptees only to be written into the Adoption Act.

• Adopters should only be able to apply for a Discharge of Adoption under no wider grounds than “that the adoption order or a consent for the purposes of the adoption order was obtained by fraud, duress or other improper means”

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Australian Governments fail to inform parties to an adoption order of the right to apply for discharge.

It is probable that most adult adoptees are unaware of the right to apply for Discharge, of which they have a right to be informed. As adoption has been open in Victoria since 1984 and gradually since then across all states with requirements on adoptive parents regarding the information adoptees should have about being adopted, and therefore known by adoptees, it is feasible to inform all adoptees at age 18 of their right to apply for Discharge under the current Acts.

The Governments and their Departments should set in place an appropriate communication strategy to ensure adult adoptees are aware of their right to apply for Discharge and the criteria in the Act. This could be in conjunction with the requirement of the Secretary to publicise the establishment of the Adoption Information Register.

As it is highly probable that natural parents and adopted people (especially where forced adoption occurred) are unaware of their own right to apply for Discharge, of which they have a right to be informed, the Government and its Departments should set in place an appropriate information campaign alerting natural parents and especially victims of forced adoption to their right to apply for Discharge and the criteria in the Act. This could be in conjunction with the requirement of the Secretary to publicise the establishment of the Adoption Information Register.

Would you give the adopted person the right of Choice?

All adopted adults should have available the right of choice to be able to apply to discharge their adoption order without having to prove fraud or duress, or that the adoption was improperly obtained, or that special circumstances exist.

The Adoption Act in all states should be immediately amended to introduce a no fault discharge to release the adoptee from a contract they never agreed to that binds them for life. Even if the child agreed to the adoption as a minor, they still should have the right to make that decision when they come of age.

My Forever Family

Michael McMahon

“The removal of children from serious threat in family of origin is acknowledged, but not a defence of  the use of the term My Forever Family – which causes additional and unnecessary harm.”

The use of the term Forever Family is disrespectful to adoptees and misleading to children adopted under this program. 

The term discounts the fact of biological families, which stretch back “forever”, and suggests adoptive families are permanent. Adoption can be ended by adopters at any time or by adoptees upon adulthood. The term wrongly implies a child is forever part of their adoptive family, which in the case of marriage breakdown, family violence or parental death etc, is not guaranteed. Members of the adoptive extended family are not signatories to an adoption and the child has no legal or biological relationship with them except through the adoptive parent. The child as an adult also has the right to cease the adoption via court, which this term implies is not or should not be the case.

The term My Forever Family disrespects relinquishing mothers, especially those who have reunited with their child and read this term in the media. For current adoptees who have achieved reunion and live with two unrelated families in their lives, this term can be distressing. Clearly reunion or ongoing contact through open adoption, contradict the claim that a child has one ‘forever’ family. Open adoption can connect biological and adoptive families, but this is rarely successful and the biological family has no legal rights or responsibilities in relation to the child.

The use of the pronoun ‘My’ is deceptive. It implies the child has a choice and that the child has some action in the adoption. This is not to say that the child may not be happy being adopted. However self-blame is a recognised response by children to trauma and adoptees should not carry any implied responsibility for the actions of others. ‘Our Forever Child’ would be more accurate as this program is focussed on the legal taking of another’s child.

Most citizens experience their biological family as a Forever Family, without a second thought. The implication that an adopted child has a normal family life just like everyone else is irresponsible. The trauma of maternal/family separation, the developmental impacts of growing up as adopted, the stigma of adoption, the psychological impacts of the absence of genetic related family, and the impacts of reunion are well evidenced in the research literature. Research and best practice also support adoptees integrating the facts of their conception, early childhood, adoption and reunion into their identity, including undertaking difficult grief work. Your Government funds programs to enable reunion and support adoptees manage the trauma sustained through adoption.

Finally, Adoption extinguishes a child’s born identity and is very difficult psychologically and legally to reverse as an adult. All adoptees birth certificates are a legal lie, recording the adoptive parents as the child’s biological parents. Current research is showing that inherited DNA is the major factor in determining identity, behaviour and potential – not nurture. There are viable alternatives to permanent ‘Forever Family’ adoption that provide children with a home and guidance until adulthood while retaining the facts of their birth and biological identity. Keeping real families together FOREVER should be an equal if not greater priority of your Government than fast tracking a last-resort solution such as adoption.
Regards
M. McMahon

ROBUST ADOPTION RESEARCH IS NEEDED.

Universities should prioritise the impact of adoption as debate grows on adoption as a solution for children in out-of-home care

Michael McMahon

Just musing – logic will never sway bigots, but…

Anti Adoption
– The social institution of Adoption is objectively bad because it harms all involved no matter how aware or unaware they or others are of that harm
Pro Adoption
– your bad experience has biased you against Adoption and you are being subjective not objective
Anti
– So you accept Adoption causes harm?
Pro
– Only in a minority – the majority of people are not harmed by Adoption
Anti
– how do you know?
Pro
– because our experience has been good
Anti
– So you are being subjectively biased and not objective.
Pro
– No- a majority of adoptees have not spoken of any harm
Anti
– How do you know – has anyone asked them?
Pro
– only a minority of those involved speak against Adoption
Anti
– only a minority speak for Adoption and the majority of those are adopters
Pro
– Then all you can say is that a minority experience harm
Anti
– How much harm is acceptable to keep Adoption going? 49%? 9%? 1%?
Pro
– A minority
Anti
– so all you can say is that at least 51% of those involved in Adoption don’t experience harm?
Pro
– At least
Anti
– oh how do you know – have you asked them?
Pro
– how do you know that all involved in Adoption are harmed?
Anti
– because Adoption removes the globally recognised human rights of all children by extinguishing their legal identity and removing them from meaningful access to their mother, extended family, heritage and culture, and in some cases, country.
– Because Adoption removes children from the responsibility of the State and places them in the care of strangers without provision of support, ongoing checks or assistance to access their origins.
Pro
– But that may be less harmful than staying in a harmful family situation
Anti
– So all Adoptees come from harmful families?
Pro
– A majority – That’s often why Adoption is needed in the first place
Anti
– So in summary you are saying that 51% or more adoptees came from a harmful family of origin and that up to 49% may have been placed in an adoptive family where they also experienced harm.
– Conversely this could be put as 49% of adoptees may have come from non-harmful families of origin but that up to 100% of those might have been put into harmful families.
Pro
– You are using the lack of data about Adoptees experiences to create a distorted argument based on missing information.
Anti
– so are you, but I don’t suppose your interested in getting that data?
…….
Anti
– hello? Hello?

 

Williams Story – Adoption it’s about truth, understanding and the right of choice. – To find your inner peace.

Adoption Search

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by  William  Hammersley – Ellis.

I have, as long as I can remember, known I was adopted and had always been an extremely angry person. As a child, I would question my adopters on why  my mother didn’t want me. The answers were always, that she was too young to bring me up, could not afford to keep me and that my father was a no hoper, who would not stand by her.

Of which proves to be a very different situation that finally surfaces many years later.

“That I was special and they chose me”. 

I would overhear discussions about me when my adoptive mother had neighbours over for afternoon tea, about how they could ‘not give up a child’ and ‘what sort of woman she must be to do that?’

My adoptive father to discipline me, which was often, would take to me with a razor strap and lose control. He would grit his teeth and perspiration would run from his brow, as he lashed at my legs until I bled, he could not stop until he was exhausted.
At school and in the neighbourhood I was seen as the bad kid, the adopted kid, not that I gave them any other reason not to, in fact I reinforced their opinion.

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When my adoptive couple sent me to participate  in the Sunday school at the church when I was around 6/7 years of age and later on in grade three or four around nine or ten years old, my adoptive couple also sent me to participate in the youth club at the local Church of England. The adopters needed me to be a part of the church so they could get friendly with the parish priest in order for him to be a character reference so they could adopt a girl child.

It was this experience that placed me in extreme danger of sexual abuse. The youth club leader had taken a fancy to me and was also the older person who lived in the local milk bar. He spent time with me and made me feel wanted and important, instead of being the bad kid on the block.

I was his mate.  11709502_486919964806187_2003206561324691719_n

I thought I had a friend.                                      

However his true motive soon showed its ugly head. — picture William Grade 3

The first time it happened, was the night when we  were last to leave the youth club meeting. He coaxed  me into the old cement toilet block behind the church hall where he started to fondle me,  sat me down on the concrete floor then removed my pants and then started masturbating me. Of course I had no idea what it all meant except it was naughty and I was too young to even ejaculate to his disappointment  and  he was my friend, therefore he was not hurting me. I remember it all so clearly and I kept saying to him, ”Stop, I need a piss, I need a piss.” He got more excited saying “No you don’t,” then he went faster. He should have listened to me. I let go and pissed everywhere all over him and me. We stayed friends after that and he took advantage of my innocence often over the following years .I was a lonely angry child who needed a friend but as we grow older we start to realise why some people want to be our friend. Obviously these experience’s contributed significantly to my trauma as a child and through into adulthood along with my mistrust and unexplained anger.

Over the coming years into my teens and young adulthood I became a victim again.

These events led me into long periods of sexual confusion, thinking I was gay and not really knowing who or what I was.

During one of my return stints back to the adoptive home and while living in the local community between jobs, I recall one particular occasion at around 18 years of age when I had a drunken destructive rage.

One Saturday afternoon I drunk a lot of grog, smoked dope,and went into an extreme  rage and  destroyed the flat that I was living in. Crying and angry I smashed the glass that I was drinking out of throwing it at the wall, then smashed the empty bottles and swept of all the knickknacks of the sideboard and smashed all the furniture. Then drove my car a Volkswagen bug strait into the front door of the priest’s hou

 I had gone to the priest , a few days prior to seek is  help with my confusion.

The priest had convinced me that I was gay and that I should accept it, but I felt he also had an ulterior motive he was grooming me into his web.

Strait away  he helped me move the car fromThe-Spider-and-the-fly_img-1024x488 (1) his front porch before anyone spotted it there, and then took me inside the rectory, where he took advantage of my vulnerability and my drunken, tender disparate and Innocent state.

When he moved up close to me I could feel him breathing and I felt a sandpaper type of scratching on my face from a five o’clock shadow, as he attempted to kiss me. It made me cringe with a sickly feeling. I did not like the feelings he was giving me but felt empty and confused and It did not feel right. That night he took full advantage of me ( I needed my mothers arms, I felt empty inside) and we slept together in one of his bedrooms, this was hell . I needed to get out. I was confused and in despair heavily depressed and not knowing who  I was and where to head next.

I did not know why I was angry, I just was. As I grew older, this anger always kept me down.

I had left the adoptive home when I was a young teenager, working and returning in-between jobs, leaving again and I survived in the bohemian world of Carlton, working in a display company, putting my natural artistic skills to work.

I felt empty inside, “a nobody”. 

download (2)I was self-destructive, expelled from secondary school in form two (Year 8 in today’s language), always getting into fights, often being found bleeding lying in the gutter. I was in and out of jobs, drank a lot and numbed my feelings with drugs, marijuana mainly.  For many years. I was stoned from morning to late at night.   The self-destruction stage continued into my 20s to late 30s.

I never identified my behaviour with my abuse as a child or adoption but hated my mother for deserting me.

It wasn’t all bad though. I had some great jobs and mixed with some very interesting people, some of whom are still my dear friends today but I did not stay in one place for long. It was not until my 40s that I decided to search for my mum and family. My adopted sister had found her family and pushed me to get my papers, but I did not search for a couple of years after I received them, wanting to but not wanting to, it’s hard to explain.

My anger was in the way  

“I thought”

  • I wanted to hurt her like I believed she had hurt me.
  • She gave me away so she did not want me, so why should I want her?
  • She did not bother to look for me, so why should I bother to look for her?

It was not until much later, I found out that she was not allowed to.

That the truth was very different to what I believed.

I was in a relationship at this stage with kay and the birth of our son came along. This was the firstsuburban-house-roofs-image-www.australianmortgageloans.com_.au_ time I felt responsibility and love, it was fantastic, my own family.I felt the one sided homosexual experiences that had taken place earlier yon in my life had moved past and entered into the unexplained history books of the past, yes leaving scars and onward unexplained trauma but now i knew that Kay was my true partner

During the pregnancy I had  an overwhelming urge to find my mother, to give our child and partner a family and a true heritage.
My adoptive sister came back on the scene. We joined forces, along with my partner and searched through phone books, the electoral roll, made phone calls. Weeks went by with no leads.
One day I was with my adopted sister. She had spotted a phone number that was near her house. We rang it, asked for Gloria (my mother’s name), the person that answered the phone turned out to be my half-sister and she passed the phone to my mother’s husband (her father). I told him who I was and asked if I could speak to Gloria, that I may be her son.

He paused for a moment and said,

“I know about you” 

“YES, it was them”

I was overcome with a strange emotion, not knowing how I felt, and then he told me that my mother had died 12 months previously. He said they were going to a memorial service for her, but would stay home so we could come around.

I remember walking into my half-sister’s house, looking around thinking that they did not look too poor to me, but comfortable, conservative, middle class, inspirational, suburban people and me being bought up in a poor working class dysfunctional, adoptive family who survived a hand to mouth existence with two other adopted children, the three of us from different families .

Here we were.

My mother had married an Austrian gentleman and they had two children and a good life, not long after I was born. It was not without its tragedies and ups and downs of suburban family life, but things had worked out for her until she died of heart disease, at sixty years of age.

It was obvious that she was not the type of person that I was lead to believe. Another little white lie by my adopting couple and society. Or was it? A lie is a lie.

“Why did my mother desert me and who was my father became my questions”

Over the next few months I met the rest of the family, an older half-brother who was from her first marriage and there was once a sister who may have been adopted by mum or was hers, but not the first husband’s child. I found out later in an article in the Canberra Times on Trove that she had been the victim of a paedophile neighbour who strangled her and then hung himself in a barn on his farm. A half-sister and two half-brothers. Both brothers were very sceptical and standoffish. I asked questions, made cynical remarks and always felt they knew more than what they were letting on…

My anger got in the way again over the months.

I found I had nothing in common with them apart from looking a bit like me. They were middle class, conservative, well off in my eyes with all the normal suburban family traits and I was angry, cynical, left wing and street wise, with a very untrustworthy mind and jealous of what they had and have and what I did not have. I spent time working with my mother’s husband building a house in the country and living in the caravan with him on site but I walked out on him. We went to meet my mother’s best friend, and attended a family wedding. My half-sister tried to form a relationship with me, but I was just a strange and difficult person for her to cope with. After her coming to a party at our house and her walking into a room where we were passing the bong around, it just got too much for her and we drifted apart.

“So that was the end of that”

I continued hating my mother for abandoning me and in some ways for leaving me a second time, by passing away before I found her, my attitude was

‘the bitch she got out of facing me”

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I felt I was the sacrificial offering, to save her two children. She was not a young teenager when she gave birth to me. She was 27 years old (another so called little white lie by my adoptive couple and society). She was going through a divorce and custody of her children.

She would have lost them to her first husband who had taken them from her, at one stage and refused to return them and they stayed with his mother. If he had found out that I existed because of the divorce laws at the time of fault divorce, and community attitudes she would have been branded an adulteress and found it near on impossible to find work and be ostracised by the general community.

I convinced myself that they did not matter and got on with my life, with my new family, but always in the back of my mind,

I wanted to know the truth – I needed the truth.

Twenty years pass,

Life is going good, we have our own business, we own our house, our son is in university and my partner is my best friend and our relationship is solid but I am still an angry person under the surface.

Except for questions that constantly pop up in my mind.

  • Why did my mother abandon me?
  • Why didn’t she come for me?
  • Who is my father?
  • What is the truth about my adoption?

I got no satisfactory answers to these questions from my mother’s family twenty years ago.

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One day I am at work and I hear on the wireless that there is going to be an apology to the mothers and people affected by forced adoption, at Parliament House  Victoria in Melbourne. I had no idea what this was about, but that night before, I said to my partner, I am going to that.

If anyone can tell me what the circumstances of my adoption were, it would be other mothers.

On the day of the apology, my son and I jumped a tram and went to Victoria’s Parliament House. As we approached, I noticed on the steps, all the children’s shoes.1932338_269823919849127_236441906_n

“It seemed like hundreds of them”

As I looked at the shoes, tears just started to stream out, uncontrollable tears.

“I cried all day that day” 

“Talk about emotion, I could not stop”

I met some wonderful people there, one of whom was Elizabeth Edwards, coordinator of Origins Victoria, who gave me her card and told me to ring her; along with Brian and Helen, seen in the picture on the Parliament House steps, who have become good colleagues and friends. If I had not have followed my gut instinct or by chance missed it and not gone to this event, I may never have found out the truth to my story.  I may never have met Elizabeth Edwards.

I was so proud to have my son by my side that day. –  What a day it was!

A couple of days later.

My partner and I went to see Elizabeth Edwards at the Origins Victoria’s office. When she was going through my papers she said that I sound like a ‘fifty pound baby’. She showed me a speech by John Cremean, who was a member of Federal parliament in 1950, that said that babies were being sold from private hospitals in major capital cities in Australia.                                                              1743517_268792966618889_775041091_n

“I was born in Avonhurst a private hospital in South Melbourne.”

Well that was it, I had to know.

I wanted the answers.

Was I a trafficked child?

How could my adopters do this?

What part did my mother play?

Did that bitch sell me?

Is that what my mother’s family was keeping from me?

All of these questions going over and over in my head.

My anger with my mother at this stage was boiling over.

First I phoned FIND and ordered another set of my adoption papers as my original set was over twenty years old. The new set proved to be of extra interest this time as these papers included some extra information.

My partner and I started to research.

She went to the computer, searched TROVE and traced the doctors. Our good friend, Rosemary, got in on the search and found out information on my family and is still helping me look for my father through DNA today.
On Facebook I started to call for other adoptees that may have been born at Avonhurst and found one who worked with us through emails.

Her experience was so similar to mine and she contributed so much vital information.

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Then I headed off to the State archives, the National archives and State library.

.For two years I searched.

People around me were very supportive, but were concerned that I had become obsessed and that my mental health could become affected.

My mental health was already affected and it was this search that I hoped would resolve it for me.

I could not let go.

Day after day I persisted, two or three days per week sometimes, getting a little bit closer to the truth. I came to a dead end, as the file I thought would have the answer, was full of 1950s pornography underwear ads, not much by today’s standard but shocking back then.

What to do next?

Elizabeth Edwards, Origins Victoria coordinator suggested I should place a Freedom of Information request and see what happens.1377117_217289921769194_663627703_n (1)
Well, from that I attracted the attention of “the man”.  The man in the State archives who knew everything.

Yes everything.

What took me two years of searching and not finding what I was looking for, he found in ten minutes.

It was the mother lode, six boxes of the government adoption files, and four bound bundles of the State Law Revision files (not our personal ones) from 1916 to 1964.

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Every document from memos, policy papers, judge’s opinions, memorandums, confidential letters, conference papers, police reports, and recommendations to the development and changing of the policies and the Adoption Act.

It takes days running into weeks, reading and photographing the files.

One day, I find a confidential letter from John Cremean to the Chief Secretary of Victoria, naming the doctor that my adoptive couple had told me about in their fairy tale stories about ‘how special I was’ and who they went to see in order to get a child to adopt. It was a Doctor Hart. My partner had also found many newspaper articles about him, linking him to the illegal abortion trade. It also named the co-proprietor of Avonhurst Private Hospital, Mr. Allen, as being Harts co-conspirator, that he had reliable information about them being involved in baby trafficking and requested the secretary make some discreet inquiries. It was not Dr Hart, that was my final evidence as he had been named In news clippings,

It was Mr Allen. Only John Cremean knew his name.

This was the final piece of proof I needed. 1962883_271569876341198_1595165201_n

“I was stunned”

I had feelings of joy, sadness, anger and relief. As I was driving home that night, tears flowed again.
My joy was that I was not mad,   Elizabeth Edwards from Origins Vic was not wrong, My partner and our friend rosemary did not waste their time and yes, I had finally found out the truth of the circumstances of my birth and subsequent adoption.

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The nurse that assisted my delivery, Sister Allen, was Mr. Allen’s wife who were the proprietors of Avonhurst Private Hospital and Doctor Bretherton, the doctor that delivered me, was in cahoots with Doctor Hart, in the illegal abortion trade. Mr. Allen and Doctor Hart were using Avonhurst for the trafficking of babies for further personal financial gain.

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The selling of babies was a byproduct, an adjunct to the abortion business.

The doctors were involved in selling babies for adoption to queue jumping adoptive couples.

They were also paying protection money to some members of the Victorian police. The paying of grafts to police by these doctors was alleged in the Kay Inquiry, into the involvement of police corruption and the abortion rackets in the 1970s where some police did jail time for their part in it, but the majority walked free and furthered their careers and the illegal baby trade was never officially uncovered.

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The federal government received reports from the state governments, all denying it ever happened, but newspapers were reporting it and John Cremean was saying it in federal parliament. Adoption agencies would not deny it was happening and they made references to it happening along, with the Secretary of the Children’s Welfare Department,F,J Pittard agreeing that it was happening and the chief secretary Mr Leggatt agreeing with him.

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“It may have been years ago but the newspaper headlines have a familiar ring. They tell of high-ranking police masterminding an abortion protection racket, demanding and receiving massive bribes from prominent Collins Street specialists and engaging in an extensive conspiracy to pervert justice”

https://www.theage.com.au/national/the-myth-of-the-clean-police-force-20040612-gdy0so.html

“An Age editorial at the time concluded: “It would have been naive to suppose that responsible ministers and officials, and successive police chiefs, had no inkling of what was going on.”

Doctor Hart did not attend the Kay inquiry of 1970s as he had died earlier but the doctor who delivered me at Avonhurst Private Hospital was among those named.

1508070_267750466723139_724110423_a (1)However, Doctor Hart was mentioned in evidence given by Mrs Margret Berman who was the person that paid the protection money from the doctors to the police, “that cash was held in Doctor Hart’s Mansion in the basement at Albert Park.

Dr Hart one of the first GP’s to systematically arrange referrals for abortions.

For me,I believe I have proof beyond reasonable doubt.

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I have the original receipt that shows my adoptive couple paid, for my mother’s hospital fees which was illegal at the time. I found out that they had borrowed the money from a close family friend and worked for him on weekends doing furniture removals, until he had paid the debt of. His wife who was a teacher was recommended by the adoptive couple and appointed by the court as my guardian, ad litem; who is meant to represent the adoptee and reported to the court that the adopting couple were fit and proper people to adopt.

Talk about a conflict of interest!

A few months later, I was given the opportunity to sit amongst a group of mothers who lost their children to adoption. They talked about how they felt when they left the hospital, empty handed, being told to forget what happened and start a new life. One at a time, they reflected on that moment, standing and telling their stories. I cried again that day as I realised so many mothers, all with the same feelings, that this was the truth, this is how my mother must have felt…Another little white lie.

My half-sister and half- brother find it a bit difficult to deal with the fact that I know more about my mother and our families heritage than they do, or did, and that I don’t hide the negative parts under the carpet or keep them safely locked away in the closet. I tread slowly, but surely in the hope that we can achieve a long and lasting relationship but they are making no moves for that to happen at the moment in fact my older half-brother has told me to stop digging but they do not understand the plight of an adopted person with the need to know the Truth.

Through all our research, I have finally gained a full understanding of why my mother had no other choice.

  • I had come to understand the horror for women, who had to prove fault, to get a divorce and how she could have lost her two children, along with being stigmatised and facing hardship.
  • I came also to understand the lengths a woman could go to keep her children.
  • I now understand how some people, unfortunately suffering infertility,who seek to adopt other people’s children would go to great lengths to obtain a child and why they seek to fulfil their needs for a child as their last resort after all other efforts had failed to give birth to their own. Along with the damage PTSD caused to my adoptive father by war.
  • I also came to an understanding of how privileged, greedy, unscrupulous people take advantage of other people’s misfortune innocence and vulnerability.

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  • Along with it,  bringing me to an understanding that governments need to not only set polices, but should also accept the responsibility of the policy failures, as well as enforcing policies that are not adhered to in practice and not simply to sweep them under the carpet.

Governments should listen to the people who try to inform them of its failings.

I point the finger of blame clearly where it belongs, with the privileged greedy doctors, the bad inefficient government policy, their lack of enforcing some of their own policies, along with the greed of some police, as well as predators who take advantage of children and young peoples innocence and vulnerability along with my adopter’s underhanded way of obtaining a child.                                                                                                                                                       

I am now at peace with my mother and the adoptive couple. We have forgiven each other in spirit, for things that do not need forgiving. I no longer carry any hatred towards my mother, her family or my adoptive couple.

I tell you this, entire story, so people can understand the lengths, that I as an adopted person, had to go to get to the truth, but should not have had to spend nearly a life time getting there.

‘Yes, I hated my mother for 60 years, but now I don’t.

I know the truth now mum’.

  •           Do I have regrets? Yes.

  •           Do I wish she was alive? Yes. 

  •           Do I want to know my father or at least his  name and my heritage? Yes.

Would I like the choice of a No Fault,  No fee , No Fuss Discharge from my adoption,  to live and leave this world with the legal identity and heritage that I was Born to – with the name my mother named me, the family name of my father, not the Legal name and heritage that was given to me by the government and people who bought me and not have to die “AS IF BORN TO” but “AS BORN TO”

However this may not ever happen because my mother passed away before I was ready to find her and had taken the name of my father with her.

Unless DNA is successful in finding a recent relative on my father’s side with the ‘Y’ test and so far after 3 years and 2 different DNA tests this has not come to fruition.

Then the Just recently : The unbelievable happened.

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DNA tests come to light thanks to our friend Rosemary’s tenacious and tireless efforts, and refusal to give in, we finally received a positive match from a first cousin Christine, who turns out to be a cousin on my father’s side. Christine’s mother, my aunt and my father’s sister, is still alive at 91 years old and living in a nursing home in Canberra, but unfortunately my father had passed away He had lived in Tuross Head NSW a small coastal town, for many years’ William George ELLIS age 75yrs was buried at Moruya in 1999. Date of Funeral 29/01/1999

 Dad never had any children it turns out that I’m dad’s only child. In Canberra Dad married Doris and parented three children a step daughter and two step son’s.( Very different to being a no hopper that was betrayed to me ) It is believed the daughter and a son have passed away and that the remaining son Anthony, is still alive. Did Bill adopt them and if this is so, Anthony would  be a legal heir to the Ellis name? This is so important to me to be able to carry the Ellis family name into the future as it would have stopped when dad passed away if he had not adopted the 3 step children . I have been looking for many years for my heritage and bloodline and I was denied the opportunity of meeting him, when he was alive, by members of my mothers family. I would have had a maximum of ten years to find him and get to know him but this was not to be so. Now I have the opportunity to know my auntie’s, cousins and extended family who have welcomed me from both sides of my parents family’s Gloria’s and Bill’s. This is why my chosen name is William Hammersley- Ellis.

I want nothing more than to be recognised and accepted as Bill & Gloria’s son and this is a grand moment to look at the family trees and see me included.
Thank you .

We are planning a family road trip to Tuross and  Canberra soon.

Looking so forward to finding out all about him and the type of person he was. He came to Australia landed in Melbourne as a British migrant. He had to pay 10 pounds to come to Australia under a Commonwealth Government scheme. There was much work in Australia, post second World War for tradesmen and being a qualified painter he was highly sought after. He was not a man with significant resources so when asked the question of how much money  he would bring with him to Australia, he mentioned 20 pounds (Immigration papers).  When filling out his application he was living with his mother and her 3rd husband William John Henry at 445 Barlow Moor Road, CCH, M/C21. Aged 26 years Born around 1925.

1951- Ship – SS New Australia. Left from Southhampton, 15th of February, 1951 for 53279066_624135178039372_2373633235415465984_nAustralia, and the ship record indicates that William George Ellis  was aboard and disembarked in Melbourne. 

At this time, Gloria ( my Mother) ran a guest house at 34 Coles Crescent, Coburg East (1951/52).

Wally (Gloria’s 2nd husband) arrives in Australia in October 1951 about three months after my conception.

I was born as “William Langdon” ( name of my mothers first husband ) at the “Avonhurst” Private Hospital, Queens Road, South Melbourne on the 26th of February, 1952, two years later to be declared illegitimate.  I would have been conceived around May 1951. William George Ellis  arrived into Melbourne in March 1951 indicating the conception would have been within three months of his landing in Australia.

On the 12th of July 2019 we set of on our road trip to Canberra and NSW to have a meeting with my fathers family. It was a great success, I had invited them to a luncheon at the accommodation we had hired in Canberra to meet me and my family and friend rosemary it was an amazing feeling my aim was not to be looking for the  “long lost family” but instead it felt like I had found “A SENS OF PLACE” I have always felt like the odd person out the bad kid on the block the one that did not belong but this day I felt calm and at peace sounds a bit mushy but that’s how it was hard to explain. We met my fathers sister my aunt her two daughters my cousins , partners, nieces and nephews and they met us what a day it was. The next meeting was to visit auntie Sylvia and uncle Bob Sylvia  is a half blood but has similar features to me as well.Now relationships are open to kindle by choice if that is how it pans out , if not there are no preconceived expectations .

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Am I still angry about anything, it is with me for allowing my anger from stopping me contacting them earlier.

But would I have been ready then?

‘I don’t know, probably not’

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To discharge his adoption.

Connecting the dispersed pieces of Williams personal life he reminded the judge of his past history, of his rights under the Victorian Charter of Human Rights and Responsibilities, under various articles of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child, ratified by Australia in 1989.
He drew attention to the wording in the Victorian Apology for Forced Adoption delivered on 25 October 2012 and the Federal Apology publicly addressed on 21 March 2013.
He emphasised how adoptees do not have a level playing field when it comes to their own identity. Discrimination prevents them from being able to make a choice about their true identity and to obtain a birth certificate that would reinstate their original identity.
He noted, “We (adoptees) are subject to a contract for life and beyond death to which we did not agree. For me, to exercise a choice to reclaim my identity and my ancestry I’ve lost (whether or not I have a social relationship with those of my family who are living) is of extreme importance to me and my children and my children’s children and generations to follow … As an adoptee, I am no equal before the law and am discriminated against because I cannot use my original birth certificates like everyone else.
As an adoptee, I am legally prevented from identifying as the person I was when I was born, as is the right of every non-adopted person.”
He expressed his choice for a no fault, no fee, no fuss discharge of his adoption.

Judge Hampel granted his wish on 1 August 2019.

It is a momentous and significant legal decision. Adoption discharges are rare in Australia.
Not every adopted person will move to discharge their adoption but William’s case opens the door to ease the burden and simplify reasons for cause for those that do.

 To Get help with applying for a discharge,

ADOPTION REVERSAL

OR contact  Adoptee Rights Australia Group Inc. (ARA),

an organisation began in 2015 to stand for equal rights in law and policy for adopted people.

Victorious he acknowledges and appreciates the support and assistance many individuals have given him over recent years.
For William death is no more welcome than it ever was.
Dying, however, has shifted to a more peaceful pathway.
Now, there is comfort with the knowledge he can leave with his original identity intact.
His sense of place—and of kin—restored, offering continuity and dignity to him and his family.

 “My MOTHER WAS FORCED it is  TRUE she had NO CHOICE.

 

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Victorian Adoption act 1928 that was currant in 1952

11. (1) It, shall not be lawful for any adopter or for any Restriction on Payments. Comp. 16 & 17 Parent or guardian except with the sanction of the court GEO. V. c. 29 to receive any payment or other reward in consideration of
the adoption of any infant under this Act or for any person
to make or give or agree to make or give to any adopter or
to any parent or guardian any such payment or reward.
(2) Any person who acts in contravention of or fails to
comply with any of the provisions of this section shall be
guilty of an offence and liable for every such offence to a
penalty of’ not more than Fifty pounds.

Department of Human Services stating in a letter that the court records to my adoption make no reference to court sanctioned payments to my natural mother – either direct or indirect.

 

Receipt that shows the Adopters paid part of  my mother’s Hospital fees.

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John Cremean’s Speech to the senate Tuesday 28th March 1950

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Australian Adoptee’s birth certificates, It’s an issue of the right of choice.

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William Hammersley, adult adopted person

Most people would not know that when a child is adopted in Australia at any age there original Birth certificate is canceled and no longer has any legal standing.

The adopted person can get a copy of the original Birth Certificate and in Victoria has been able to since the 1980’s after attending mandatory counselling session and being issued with a certificate of access however the original birth certificate is only a souvenir of who the adopted person use to be.

Even though it is useful for searching and seeking out the people and heritage we once belonged to.

A new birth certificate is issued and the child’s original identity is changed stating the child’s name change and that the adoptive parents are the people who gave birth to the child “As If Born To” and includes any living sibling of the adopters as the child’s brothers and sisters it looks exactly the same as a non adopted persons birth certificate and becomes the only recognised legal identity of the child and parentage.

‘Adoption by way of identity change and new birth certificate is not necessary to providing belonging. I do agree that having legal ties to adoptive family and natural can promote a sense of belonging . However, the birth certificate falsification and legal severance is not necessary. It’s punitive. It’s an archaic model used to hide the shame of illegitimacy. It’s time for this to end.’ 
Ang Maree Oliver.Adult adopted person.

The issues for us adult adoptees from the Closed and Open adoption era and Future adoptees are:

  1. • There are Adoptees that want to leave their ancestry behind, those who wish to identify only with their adopted family.”
  2. • And there are those who would like a post adoption integrated birth certificate that could show ancestry and kinship was severed and thus it would show who they became and remained for the rest of their life and who their children’s children became.
  3. • And there are those that would like to have no identity change in the name of care and want their original unaltered Birth certificates back and be able to live as the person that they were born as.

The Integrated Birth Certificate that has both sets of parents on it Dose not Resolve the issue for All adopted People.

We believe for adult adoptees the government should give each group what they want considering the mistakes of the past “with no fuss”

-1 Adoptees that want to identify only with their adopted family,
the government should do nothing just continue on with the post adoption birth certificate.

-2 Adoptees who would like a post adoption integrated birth certificate,
the government should Pass it and supply it through application to Births Deaths and Marriages B.D.M.

-3 Adoptees that would like to have no identity change and want their original unaltered Birth certificates reinstated to live out their lives as the person that they were born as

for group number -3 The government should give it to them via a simple application to B.D.M or If for legal reasons this can not be done then a the right of choice of a No fault Discharge ‘keep it simple”

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Then for present and future adoptions.

  • The child should maintain its birth identity and keeps its original birth certificate as the primary source of identification.
  • The adoptive parents for legal parent identification use the certificate of adoption.
  • All that is needed is the usual court Order of Adoption or a parenting order that is used with the original Birth Certificate to prove legal parenting and that certificate is only to be used to prove legal parenting NOT name change.
  • When the parent/s consents to the adoption we are not actually adopted until the actual court order by the Supreme Court. So this is the real adoption document that evidences the adoption and legal parentage.
  • When the Adopted infant /child becomes of age then they can choose If they wish to identify with their adopted family as well as their original family by adding the adopted parents to the original Birth certificate. (Integrated OBC) if they so wish to do so.
  • Those that want to leave their original ancestry behind, those who wish to identify only with their adopted family. by applying to B.D.M for a post adoption Birth Certificate that changes the child’s/adult identity. can also do so if they so wish.
  • Those that do not wish to have an integrated BC or a Post adoption BC can just simply continue using there original BC that they have been using since birth.
  • Those that want to get a discharge from their adoption and identify as the person they were born as, can, with out having to prove fault or irretrievable brake down via a No Fault fuss free Discharge can also do so if they so wish .

“A GOVERNMENT THAT COULD PRODUCE EACH OF THE ABOVE OPTIONS THROUGH LEGISLATION WOULD BE OUTSTANDING AND A WINNER IN MY EYES! If they could only produce one option for the future, then I would like it to be the one that enables the original birth certificate without a new, fake ID for the adoptee’ –Sandra Barker adult “adopted person

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Birth Certificates

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No fault Discharge

https://httpadoptionwilliam.wordpress.com/2016/11/29/no-fault-discharge-for-adult-adoptees-2/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ROBUST ADOPTION RESEARCH IS NEEDED.

Universities should prioritise the impact of adoption as debate grows on adoption as a solution for children in out-of-home care

Michael McMahon

Just musing – logic will never sway bigots, but…

Anti Adoption
– The social institution of Adoption is objectively bad because it harms all involved no matter how aware or unaware they or others are of that harm
Pro Adoption
– your bad experience has biased you against Adoption and you are being subjective not objective
Anti
– So you accept Adoption causes harm?
Pro
– Only in a minority – the majority of people are not harmed by Adoption
Anti
– how do you know?
Pro
– because our experience has been good
Anti
– So you are being subjectively biased and not objective.
Pro
– No- a majority of adoptees have not spoken of any harm
Anti
– How do you know – has anyone asked them?
Pro
– only a minority of those involved speak against Adoption
Anti
– only a minority speak for Adoption and the majority of those are adopters
Pro
– Then all you can say is that a minority experience harm
Anti
– How much harm is acceptable to keep Adoption going? 49%? 9%? 1%?
Pro
– A minority
Anti
– so all you can say is that at least 51% of those involved in Adoption don’t experience harm?
Pro
– At least
Anti
– oh how do you know – have you asked them?
Pro
– how do you know that all involved in Adoption are harmed?
Anti
– because Adoption removes the globally recognised human rights of all children by extinguishing their legal identity and removing them from meaningful access to their mother, extended family, heritage and culture, and in some cases, country.
– Because Adoption removes children from the responsibility of the State and places them in the care of strangers without provision of support, ongoing checks or assistance to access their origins.
Pro
– But that may be less harmful than staying in a harmful family situation
Anti
– So all Adoptees come from harmful families?
Pro
– A majority – That’s often why Adoption is needed in the first place
Anti
– So in summary you are saying that 51% or more adoptees came from a harmful family of origin and that up to 49% may have been placed in an adoptive family where they also experienced harm.
– Conversely this could be put as 49% of adoptees may have come from non-harmful families of origin but that up to 100% of those might have been put into harmful families.
Pro
– You are using the lack of data about Adoptees experiences to create a distorted argument based on missing information.
Anti
– so are you, but I don’t suppose your interested in getting that data?
…….
Anti
– hello? Hello?

 

Permanent Care was developed as an alternative to adoption and hear they are recommending it become a supply chain

The Adoption Act report

VLRC Victorian Law Reform Commission

   Known-child adoption

51 The Adoption Act recognises two types of known-child adoption in Victoria: adoption by a step-parent and adoption by a relative of a child. ‘Exceptional circumstances’ must exist in relation to the child which make the adoption desirable. Additionally, parenting orders under the Family Law Act 1975 (Cth) are preferred to adoption orders as they do not sever the legal relationship between the child and their parents, and expire when the child turns 18. There is also concern that when a relative adopts a child, it can distort family relationships. The Commission supports the preference for Family Law Act orders over adoption orders in relation to adoption by step-parents and relatives.

52 Adoption agencies told the Commission that they do not prioritise adoption applications by step-parents, due to funding constraints. Such applications are considered low-risk, in that they seek to formalise an existing relationship which will continue whether or not the child is adopted. xviii Victorian Law Reform Commission Review of the Adoption Act 1984: Report

53 The Commission considers it is reasonable to expect a step-parent to contribute to the administrative cost of their application if they wish to adopt the child before the child turns 18. It makes a recommendation to this effect. At 18 years old a person can elect to be adopted by a step-parent or relative without the involvement of the Secretary or principal officer.

Adoption from care

“Permanent Care was developed as an alternative to adoption and hear they are recommending it become a supply chain”

Adoption from care

54 In Victoria, permanent care orders under the CYF Act provide permanency for children in Victoria’s child protection system. A permanent care order transfers parental responsibility for the child from the natural parents to the permanent care parents while maintaining the legal parental relationship. The Adoption Act does not provide a way for a person with responsibility for a child under a permanent care order to adopt that child.

55 The Commission recommends the creation of a pathway to adoption from permanent care in strictly limited circumstances.

56 The consent of a child’s natural parents should remain the fundamental requirement. ‘Child protection’ grounds for dispensing with consent should not be available in granting an order for adoption from permanent care.

57 Eligibility should be limited to people applying to adopt a child who has been placed with the applicant under a permanent care order for at least two years. The two-year requirement ensures that children will not be quickly moved from permanent care to adoption.

58 As a form of known-child adoption, it is appropriate that ‘exceptional circumstances’ be demonstrated which make the adoption desirable. Lack of contact between a child and their natural parents should not of itself satisfy this requirement. The court should also be satisfied that an adoption order would make better provision for the child’s welfare and best interests than continuation of the permanent care order, or an order under the Family Law Act.

59 As permanent care orders are under the Children’s Court jurisdiction, discharge of a permanent care order is a decision of that Court. Leave from Children’s Court should be granted before an application for an adoption order is made to the County Court.

http://lawreform.vic.gov.au/sites/default/files/VLRC_Adoption_Report_forweb.pdf

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OPEN ADOPTION

Hi my name is William Hammersley

 

If you were adopted into an  OPEN ADOPTION SYSTEM

I’m writing to you to get your help

‘Here in Australia we have had Open Adoption since the early 80s but I have found it extremely difficult to find adoptees that have the lived experience with Open Adoption and I’m starting to think that it may have been policy in most states of Australia but not really practiced and that most adopted persons since then don’t even know it existed.

In Australia we are currently experiencing a very strong push by the pro adoption lobby group Adopt change headed by Deborah lee Furness, Hugh Jackman’s wife, to open up and fast track Open Adoption into our child protection system. It is being presented as a new paradigm that solves the problems of the past closed adoption era.

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There has been established an Open Adoption Institute at the University of NSW to research Open Adoption and this is proving to be nothing more than an ‘industry propaganda exercise Cherry picking research from the UK and USA and conducting questionable research with adopted children, adoptive parents, natural parents and a very small hand full of young adopted adults from the open adoption system who support their aims.

The current state of play in Australia at present is that the federal government and State Governments are either considering or implementing such strategies with the exception of a couple of state governments who are prioritising Guardianships to the carers over adoption.

I am aware that Open Adoption has been operating for quite a while in the USA and the UK and we would like help from YOU, the Adopted persons with the lived experiences of open adoption from any country where open adoption has been practiced or supposed to have been practiced to share your stories with us so we can present a fair and balanced argument that shows that there are two sides to a coin rather than a one sided pro open adoption one, that we are experiencing at present.

I have set up a Face book page where you can post your stories and share them with others from the Open Adoption Experiences

Please join us at Open Adoption Australia and share your Stories

https://www.facebook.com/groups/800055193508540/?ref=group_header

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William Hammersley